So I was reading a random Tweet the other day about Usher’s song “Climax,” and how the Tweeter was so frustrated and sick of people thinking that the song is about sex, when clearly it primarily isn’t. Having previously listened to the song lyrics, I knew what she was referring to. I had also initially erroneously concluded that the song was about sex, simply given its title.
However, what the song is really about is reaching that pinnacle of a relationship, the turning point, at which you know there’s no turning back, even though you’ve both come so far. Yet at the same time, realizing that there’s nowhere else to go but down and out because you can’t continue on together. This creates an agonizing paradox and inner conflict. With the dilemma caused on the one hand because you still love that other person.
On the other hand, if you were being honest with yourself, you’d know it’s over when you realize you’ve reached that critical mass point. For anyone who’s ever been in love, but for one reason or another, that relationship just didn’t work out, you know how that is. I certainly do.
Though having loved and lost has given me some interesting life perspective. There’s a saying that goes something like it’s better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all. So while the logic of that sentence is debatable, I’ve found that it’s ultimately been true for me personally.
As I prepare for a college reunion, I can’t help but feel a little nostalgic. As I look back to being a kid, between ages seventeen to twenty-one, I think about how far I’ve come since the days that I was in undergrad. In those days I was dating a person who helped define what love is for me, although things didn’t ultimately work out for us.
Yet honestly, the heartache I thought I’d never survive at the time, eventually facilitated me becoming a better writer. It also helped me to know what I do and don’t want in life, specifically in romantic involvements, and to relate to other people who have been through something similar. After all, if I hadn’t experienced the full range of human emotions across a myriad of spectrums in my own life, how would I be able to write compelling stories that felt like they could be pulled from the pages of real life?
Speaking of broad human experiences, for those of you who tuned in because you thought this blog post was about sex, I definitely don’t want to leave you… unsatisfied. 😉 So here are some snippets from my upcoming book The Chocolate Chronicles: Volume 2, Fudge Brownies – Trouble At All Costs:
So sweet and divine
In fudge brownies
And I don’t want to be saved
I’m amazed and dazed
By your sultry seduction
The tempting of a glutton
Yet it feels so right
As I fulfill my appetite
With you all night
A free flowing, free falling
Crescendo of fireworks
Blazing through the
Entirety of existence
With a single pinpoint
Of light bursting out
Into a big bang!
Expect The Chocolate Chronicles Volume 2 out on May 24, 2012. More details to come soon. Have a great weekend everyone!